Seizure Man!
April 29, 2007
Cyanide & Happiness @ Explosm.net
Don't ask me why it appeals.
Posted at 11:22 PM
When you need one
April 19, 2007
Where's a trip out of the country when you need time to think?
Damn.
Posted at 10:49 PM
Horner and Sarah join the club
April 09, 2007
Many people took photos so I'm sure something suitable will make its way to me before too long. When that happens I'll try to remember to post something here.
I'm not going to dwell too much on this, I woke up feeling particularly nostalgic this morning and I don't want to dig that hole any deeper. However, for posterity I wanted to put something up here so when I'm old and decrepit and have lost all motor function except my right hand (my mouse hand dammit!) I'll have something to read.
Horner and Sarah managed to turn it into a bit of an epic weekend, which is fair enough given the number and range of people out from various places. We've eaten a lot (all of it good) and done very little to burn any of it off. They held their ceremony at Kirstenbosch and apart from being a tad warm the weather behaved.
Horner and Sarah asked me to do a reading, which I think I managed not to completely cock up. I've included it below so I can look back in 30 years and laugh at what a completely sentimental bastard I was.
The Art of Marriage – Anonymous
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage: the little things are the big ones. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
Posted at 04:17 PM
Married Man's next challenge: intimacy
April 04, 2007
Interesting read. My favourite quote is
Today, simply not cheating on your wife or beating your kids doesn't make you a good husband and father.
It's a 5 page article, a veritable book in today's Internet landscape, so I'll summarize for you. Data collected over the second half of the 20th century suggests that men are prepared to do whatever it takes to make marriage work, but what this is has changed in the last decade and men no longer have a fucking clue what it is they should be doing.
Further summarized: men/women don't understand women/men.
Surprise, surprise.
Posted at 08:33 PM